http://www.learning-mind.com/victim-mentality-signs/ Victim Mentality can poison any moment and any relationship so escape this trap as soon as you identify that you are creating a victim triangle or a victim trap. Here are some ideas.
lonerwolf.com/victim-mentality/ See if this check list of signs that you are being a victim helps you understand the trap you are in at home, at work, or in love relationships. And then, consider some ways to set yourself free from victim mentality.
books.google.com/books Consider the tools you need to add to your tool bag to avoid harming others by your actions and words and avoid being victim, especially in your loving relationship. Julia Colwell has some useful suggestions.